I remember pre-relationship days. Always wondering if she likes me or not. Should I take that leap of faith? I feel like not is the time, we've been spending so much time together. But what if its too soon? What if she says no because its too soon, but would say yes if given more time? I think I'm not alone when I say that it is a battle between the heart and the head.When entering a relationship, should we follow our heart or our head?
Heart has a lot to do with feeling. And while we all want to feel good, I think we all cannot ignore the element of risk involved with following your heart. We do what we feel is right, but is that the wisest decision to make? We make our judgments based on how we feel, but is that the best approach? I'm inclined to say no, but there have been times when I've made impulse decisions which paid off in the future. Following the heart is like investing in a high risk security. The returns are great, but so are the losses should things go bad. Head seems more logical, systematic, thought through. At first glance, this may seem like the better of the two options to follow, but thinking about it, will the thinking ever stop? If I think she's great, and we're compatible, I wait for what I think is a decent period before I enter the relationship, and just when I think that this is where the thinking stops, I think some more. Now that I've seen more of her flaws because of the relationship, do I think I can carry on. Then I try to think of a way to work around her flaws, because I think that it can be solved. You get the gist. When we think, we are inclined to think that there's a solution, otherwise why would we think in the first place? But is there a solution to everything? It does seem that thinking can get quite tiring, and I agree. What do we do after that? Don't care, and just follow our heart? Do what we feel is good, and hope for the best. It seems that while we would all like to follow the approach that is forward looking, the thought process is so difficult, we usually end up satisfying our short term goals first. But as time goes by, won't our long term goals eventually end up being our short term goals. So I guess in a relationship, our heart does eventually take over.
